Editor's note: This piece originally published on The Fulcrum and has been republished on IVN with permission from the publisher. 

As I think about Tuesday’s State of the Union address by President Donald Trump and the response of Senator Elissa Slotkin from Michigan—a former CIA analyst and a rising star in the Democratic Party—I am reminded of the book “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” by John Gray published in 1992.

A sequel should be written today: “Democrats Are from Mars, Republicans Are from Venus”…..or vice versa since the planet they each are from doesn’t matter.

The book became a cultural phenomenon in the 1990s, offering insights into relationships and communication between men and women. The differences in communication styles, emotional needs, and general views of life remind me so much of the differences between Democrats and Republicans.

Tuesday night's State of the Union address by President Trump and the response of Democrats is a perfect example. As Republicans enthusiastically applauded every word the President said, Democrats were furious in their outrage. The differing perspectives of the state of affairs in the U.S. and the world might as well come from two people—or in this case, political parties—that are from two different planets.

While Trump and Republicans praised Elon Musk’s effort with DOGE to eliminate waste, fraud, and abuse within the government, democrats were outraged.

Rep. Gerry Connolly (Va.), the top Democrat on the House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform, decided to boycott Trump’s speech “in solidarity” with federal government employees who have been terminated as part of the Trump administration’s push to downsize the government and cut waste. Connolly also added that his protest is a way to offer backing for those both domestic and overseas who are set to be impacted by Trump’s agenda.

And, of course, Democrats maligned the impact tariffs will have on inflation and their impact on everyday working Americans, while President Trump said that “tariffs are not just about protecting American jobs, they're about protecting the soul of our country."

And, on the issue of war and peace, the two parties might as well come from two different planets. Mr. Trump said, during his address, that he is "working tirelessly to end the savage conflict in Ukraine." Senator Slotkin replied by saying, "President Trump loves to say peace through strength. That's actually a line he stole from Ronald Reagan. But let me tell you, after the spectacle that just took place in the Oval Office last week, Reagan must be rolling in his grave," implying that Reagan would be more supportive of an adversary to Russia than Mr. Trump has been to Ukraine.

The examples of how there are two opposing perceptions of the state of our union go on and on.

Democrats and Republicans are seemingly from two different planets.

As I think about “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus” as a metaphor for two groups with fundamentally different perspectives that are trying to coexist, one can certainly see similarities in the dynamic between Democrats and Republicans. Both groups often operate with distinct "languages," priorities, and worldviews, which can make communication and collaboration feel like interplanetary diplomacy.

As just one example, just as the book suggests men and women have different emotional needs, Democrats and Republicans often prioritize different issues—like social programs versus tax cuts. Taking a lesson from the book, which emphasizes understanding and compromise, successful bipartisan problem solving will require bridging those divides with empathy and mutual respect.

It’s a perfect example of the difference between Democrats and Republicans can be seen in reflecting on the White House meeting last week between President Trump and Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy.

Democrats were largely critical of Trump's behavior during the meeting, describing it as disrespectful and counterproductive, and accused Trump and Vice President JD Vance of undermining U.S. support for Ukraine and playing into Russian interests.

On the other hand, Republicans generally expressed frustration with Zelenskyy, accusing him of being ungrateful and difficult to work with, some suggesting, as did Senator Lindsey Graham, that Zelenskyy needed to change his approach or step aside.

It's a perfect example that Democrats Are from Mars, Republicans Are from Venus.

If we are ever going to move forward as a nation and solve the serious problems facing our nation, perhaps we should take a lesson from “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”. The book categorizes ways people express and experience love into five "languages," providing insights into relationships and how to bridge communication gaps. Substitute the word “see the world” for “love” and it might serve as a useful lesson for us all.

Another book from the early 1990s, "You Just Don't Understand" by Deborah Tannen, focuses on similar gender-based differences that, once again, might serve us all in thinking about the difference between Democrats and Republicans, and help us address common misunderstandings. The book emphasizes the need to dive deeper into linguistic patterns and perceptions of what is coming between two different tribes occupying the same nation.

Perhaps, we can all have fun with this by re-watching the movie “When Harry Met Sally,” as it captures the differences and tensions between the sexes with a bit of humor. We certainly need to break down the barriers and humor might just do the trick.

Imagine a bipartisan roast where politicians poke fun at their own party’s quirks—like Democrats joking about their love for the rule of law and Republicans about their love for tax cuts. It could be a refreshing way to ease tensions and foster some goodwill.

Laughter might not solve everything, but it sure makes the journey a bit lighter. If laughter doesn’t work, how about a national therapy session?

If not, we’ll just head for different planets and all our problems will be solved